You’re getting married – congratulations! You have found what many of us are looking for – someone to share your life with. Most people view marriage this way; as a lifelong commitment. And yet, about half of all marriages end in divorce. We know one of the main reasons for divorce is a lack of connection, a feeling of having drifted apart. That may be hard to imagine, given how close and connected you’re feeling right now. But all couples are at risk of developing negative patterns that lead to disconnection. Keeping a feeling of connection going takes daily moments of tuning into each other in a meaningful way.
Why not set your marriage up for longterm success? Let me help by guiding you through discussions about important aspects of relating to others, including how each of you expresses needs and wants, how you handle hurt feelings, how you cope with conflict, etc.
Growing up, we learn a lot about ourselves and relationships within the context of our family. What did you and your fiancé learn about the expression of feelings? resolving conflict? expression of love and affection? What did you see modeled in your parents’ marriage?
In sharing a life, there are many important issues to discuss, such as whether to have children, parenting, money, sex, division of labor, in-laws, time together vs. independence, etc. In premarital counseling not only will we will talk about these issues, but we will talk a lot about how you talk about them. You can have productive conversations where each of you feel heard, understood, cared about and emotionally connected. Even when you aren’t completely on the same page. Let me show you how this is possible.
Invest now in your marriage’s future!